The best way for a father to succeed in a custody case is to show a history and pattern of involvement from the day a child is born. One way for fathers to do this is to take advantage of paternity leave and stay involved . . . through toddlerhood, elementary school and beyond. Children deserve the best of both parents. This commitment of time and attention often requires sacrifices. Often, you won’t be paid for the time you take off from work. But the reward you gain is well worth the loss. You win an attachment to your child that will sustain you throughout your lives.

The Family Medical Leave Act is a federal law that can help some fathers (and mothers!) give their children the gift of time from both parents. If you are about to become a father, consider this: Paternity Leave Checklist..